Caution – emotional vampires! Protect yourself from people who complicate your life

2018-02-20 15:46

Caution – emotional vampires! Protect yourself from people who complicate your life
We are talking about these creatures of darkness that can not only annoy you but also mesmerize you cloud your mind with false promises until you fall under their spell.

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Emotional vampires surround you everywhere, disguised as regular people until their internal needs will not turn them into wild animals. But they feed on your blood, and your emotional energy, reports Rus.Media.

We are talking about these creatures of darkness that can not only annoy you but also mesmerize you cloud your mind with false promises until you fall under her spell. Emotional vampires tempt you into their nets and feed on your energy.

People who behave warmly and sincerely, but gossip behind your back.

First, emotional vampires produce even more pleasant experience than ordinary people. You feel the sympathy; you trust them; you expect more from them than from other people, and ultimately get to them in captivity.

from the book by albert Bernstein, “Emotional vampires”

Emotional ties vary depending on what we fed them. If it’s sadness, envy, complaints, or constant anger is definitely an unhealthy relationship.

Emotional vampires

These relationships make us feel depressed, overwhelmed, angry and completely devoid of the force.

In fact, without effective protection strategies to resist the manipulators difficult, as they feed off our energy and in the end this leads us to overeating, rapid mood changes, fatigue and emotional isolation.

They are called many things: toxic people, vampires and emotional predators, parasites.

Although this classification has no scientific basis, these people lead us to a state of emotional collapse, which is very hard to deal with.

By their nature, they are not bad people, but their immaturity allows them to evaluate their actions, they just do not understand and do not think about the fact that they are good or bad.

We will define the 5 types of people that poison our emotions, and suck our energy like vampires and leave us as predators.

1. Passive-aggressive people

They’re experts in how to mask and sweeten the hostility. They Express their anger with a smile on your face or excessive concern with moderation, which is always annoying.

We all from time to time resorted to such methods, but people who abuse them, constantly put us in an awkward position.

The best strategy of self-defense in this case — to defend their beliefs and to delineate the boundaries of which no one has the right to cross.

We deserve to be treated with love and sincerity, and should not allow anyone to tell us what we supposedly “progiam my life.”

2. Narcissistic people

They consider themselves the center of the universe. They are self-centered, vain and crave attention and admiration. They may seem clever and charming people, until they see that undermines their status of genius, guru or role model.

They can work with enthusiasm, as long as your goals coincide. If not, they show the claws.

Guided by the motto “I,” they don’t pay any attention to the anger or sorrow of others. They often lack compassion or they hide it in because they find it difficult to love anyone but himself. They should always be in the first place, and if it is not, a conflict occurs .

The best method of self-defense in this case is to evaluate their good quality, but to be realistic, when something we expect from them. Don’t let such people suppress themselves; it is their need dictated by narcissism.

You can cooperate with them if it is in their interest, and you can prove that it will benefit them.

3. Angry people

These vampires are the source of energy attacking other people, humiliating and criticizing them.Such people like to provoke conflicts. They often become enraged and carry their anger on other people.

The best way to protect yourself from the wrath of others — work on your self-esteem. Don’t rush, pause and take a deep breath.

Try to hang on and respond to the torrent of anger only when you’re calm.

4. Martyrs

Exactly call them drama kings. They constantly put pressure on the sick and is able to find bad anywhere.

The best way to protect yourself — do not try to be perfect and carry all the responsibility.

We all make mistakes. If you feel guilty, change the situation, think about the events and cry, if necessary.

You can also respond to their attack following positive statements : “I understand you, but when you say it…you’re hurting my feelings. I will be grateful to you if you’re going to do that.”

5. Gossip

It’s interesting the people who spread gossip behind the backs of friends and undermine your reputation. When they do, everything will feel humiliated and unappreciated.

The best method of self-defense in this case is not to think about what these people say and think about us and do not take their gossip as something personal. Better to take a step forward and ignore them.

If you’re the kind of person in one company and he starts talking about someone, try to change the subject. Important — never share them with their or other people’s secrets.

What they do hurts you and your reputation. Try to ask to argue and tell him something like: “Your comments are harmful to others. How would you feel if I said something like that? Please stop talking about me”.

Learn to recognize the people who cause you emotional pain, and product-defense mechanisms, which will allow you to maintain your mental health.

Protect yourself from people who are making your life difficult.