Holes into which the falls family happiness

2018-02-27 13:31

Holes into which the falls family happiness
Divorce statistics shockingly, up to 80% a year! Where does the family fortune?

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If there is no solution, and no family

Hardly anyone initially getting married or being married feels miserable.

Usually people begin a life together with a beautiful celebration and promises of happiness to each other. And because of that, they have, in every case there is the potential that can help to be happy with this partner.

But divorce statistics are shockingly, up to 80% a year! Where does the family fortune?

Let’s imagine a happy family (potential), like a sack of apples, remember in the old Soviet cartoon that nose of his family hare home…And this bag was formed of holes through which the hare all the apples lost.

Where can occur, these main holes in a Potential marital happiness?

1. Hole first. Accommodation together with parents wife or husband.

It’s time to grow up and build their lives. It is work! But staying with parents who continue to be childish child+constant conflict of generations. Usually in these young a lot of benefits: parents will feed, provide housing for the children will be looked after!!! but:

The result — the boat of marriage is empty!

2. The hole second. Inability to interfere.

We are all different, even very similar. We grew up in different conditions and have lived a different life before marriage. A priori we can’t all each other know and understand that even if there is such an illusion. Conflicts need to get to know each other, seek common ground, not to pour the negativity on each other. If conflicts are not constructive — they quickly razrushayut at all potential happiness. Another 20% of the apples from the bag fell out….

3. Hole three: Images and concealment of problems.

Resentment — When your expectation from the other do not coincide with reality, and you are silent, pouting, rude …. How else to learn about your expectations?

another 20% of the apples from the bag fell out…

4. Hole four: the Unwillingness to work on relationships and change with life’s challenges

nothing is permanent and the family is a living organism, which changes, develops, passes through various stages, solves complex problems and if you are unchanged, you just don’t pull!

And 20 % of apples fell…

5. Hole five: there is No clear solution and the internal determination to be faithful

So! It is the solution! Adult and responsible! Because there is always a temptation, and in the family possible crises, problems, boredom, everyday life, and only a conscious decision will help you keep and develop your Love!

if not, then no family… and 20% of apples you lost!

and so, gradually, through the holes comes your General potential happiness… and , in the end, both of you with an empty bag of unfulfilled hopes or Laden with stones of grievances and complaints instead of apples )

After all, in your hands, and if you go through each item and work on it: sew up the hole, to make prevention.

Then your whole family, including children, will be able to try a real family happiness, love and harmony.