Three mistakes women and no sex and no relationship, and ahead of only the lonely

2018-01-04 21:02

Three mistakes women and no sex and no relationship, and ahead of only the lonely
Of all the errors which can make in the life of a woman, the worst for me were three

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It was thought that this could only happen to me. But then I realized it was stepping on the same rake! Truth is bitter, but I think that you should…

Error victims

One day in my life happened the person who really hurt me. So painful that I was ready without delay to award him the title of”asshole of the year”. It made me so hurt that I even wanted to die, seriously. He made me so painful that the pain I was able to suppress the outside, went to my body, and began to destroy it. I’ve never experienced this before, but those few weeks were hell for me!

My muscles cramped from the tension to such an extent that I was limping on one leg. Back terribly ached, as if someone cut my wings. And even the stomach to the intestines reacted to the cheating kind. Everything I ate, then pushed spasms – so I felt bad. I walked the streets and cried, smearing the mascara eyes. I was sitting in a taxi, and cried, even wailed, hiding from the driver wet with tears face. Sometimes, staying alone, I just cried out loud: “what!”. Then I added “do you do this to me!” I screamed and could not find the answer, reports Rus.Media.

I wanted to her terrible fate. I swore I will not ever trust – it hurt ME. I was crushed victim.

I didn’t see anything in front of him, as long as the fate, taking pity on me, gave me a hint. I came across some primitive test of locus of control on Facebook. From the series: answer 5 questions to find out.

Know what locus of control? It is the human tendency to attribute their failures to themselves or others. If ascribes to himself, then internal locus of control. But if others – external. A person with an external locus of control are all to blame. Fucking kettle burnt his hand. He is late because of slow trains. Head-the idiot doesn’t appreciate at work. And so on. I poked at the keys, and suddenly realized exactly how my situation mirrors the situation with the kettle.

I got burned about the man, grasping trustingly hand warmly. I was so stupid that even didn’t check the temperature of the device. This I had to be careful.

And at the same moment, when I realized this, I stopped being a victim. I was just distracted by the girl who had burned his hand. I didn’t have to hurt him, didn’t have to do shit to him and something to prove. It was not there any more. He rushed me so fast, like water pressure, dirtiest disappears in the sewers.

I again was free. I am no longer limping, I could eat. Cat inside me was no longer scratching, not tore my chest to pieces… It was something I lacked – freedom from negative experiences. Never blame your ex. Not saying they were bad people anyone ever. Just tell me – it was my mistake. It was my personal hot kettle. But henceforth I will be more careful. And the ghosts of the past will not dare to disturb you.

Error tykes

How it hurts me now to talk about it, in life there were occasions when I acted like a stray mongrel. No, I did not run from house to house and ate the peel from the sausage. But I did somewhat worse. I spent the time to earn someone’s love.

Yes, now it seems to me foolish. But I spent years of his life, thinking that those who don’t appreciate me now, appreciate me for my kindness to him. Imagine how terrible was my mistake. I wanted his exemplary behavior to earn someone’s love.

I thought: if I will be regularly useful to man, if I dry his tears, if I’m going to share his personal joy, if I adapt to his tastes, then people will come around. He will take me in life! He’ll look at me differently!

But, as you may have guessed, the miracle did not happen. No one has ever loved another “something”. This is an area where there is no logic, there is not “what” but “contrary to what.”

Love is the sort of thing that cannot be taken away, bought or earned. It either is or it is not. Remember this, please!

The mistake of the Soviet saleswoman

The third error I call a mistake saleswoman. It is the most common among female, but the lady again and again come to the old rake.

A woman rarely can admit to myself that it is exactly the same as everyone else. Women generally hate comparisons. If you want to hurt a woman, compare her with another woman. The result in the form of tantrums and tearful eyes guaranteed.

This feature is to think of yourself as unique, and considered in isolation from the world often with women playing a cruel joke. They can not assess yourself against all of the other women, and therefore seriously believe that they are better than others. This is reflected in his personal life, and in relationships. They talk with potential buyers as the Soviet saleswoman deficit “through the lip” highly valued and I love to say that they were just unlucky.

These women do not understand that we are all on the free market. The price in such a market naturally regulated by the amount of supply and demand. This product can be sold at a higher price only if it is scarce.

And then – surprise – there is one more detail. If your item is scarce, its very many people want to buy. If you scarce a woman – you have a lot of fans. If you are a great employee – you have a ton of job offers. You can’t imagine how it was hard for me to say to myself, ‘ what is the most ordinary girl. Not better or worse than others. And to be happy, you have to try very hard, babe. But when I said to myself, my life became much happier and better.