Do not interrupt the children to be successful: 7 models the erroneous behavior of the parents

Techno 4 March, 2018

2018-03-04 07:58

Do not interrupt the children to be successful: 7 models the erroneous behavior of the parents
In the future these errors may limit the ability to achieve success in your career and personal life. Here are the mistakes most often made by the parents.

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Best-selling author on psychology Tim Elmore during independent studies have detected several mistakes of parents reduce children confidence.

In the future these errors may limit the ability to achieve success in your career and personal life.

Here are the mistakes most often made by the parents.

They do not allow children to take risks

The slogan of most dads and moms is: “Safety first!” However, we never think about the fact that evolution has long since developed coping mechanisms. We turn a blind eye and see only the realities of modern society: the complex mechanisms, transport, electricity and much more. We are afraid of losing their children and do everything possible to protect them. In the end, we are responsible for them.

That’s what European psychologists found that children who are isolated from the street, have more phobias compared with their peers. That the child fell on the Playground and hurt his knee, there is nothing criminal. Thus he learns to know the world and to weigh their next steps. They come to the rescue too quickly

Today’s generation of young people does not possess several important skills just because 20-30 years ago, their parents used to decide for them all the problems. When you come to the rescue too quickly and over-annoying child control, she learns to know how to cope with difficult situations and overcome problems. Sooner or later, children get used to the fact that help will always come a loving mother and father always substitute a strong shoulder. However, in adult life, no assistants, no.

They are too addicted to their children’s success

The practice of intentional overstatement of the self rooted in our society in the late twentieth century. In the quest to produce successful members of society, the parents began loading the children participate in various activities with the younger school age. Music, dancing, sports clubs, school competitions …

Every time you win a competition, we are ready to carry the child on hands and admire it. But, more importantly, however, it is necessary to tell all friends. Let them know what a talented baby growing up!

Children quickly understand that parents want only victories. It’s forgiven for any disobedience. As a result, the children learn to deceive and to exaggerate his own achievements.

When financial reward is placed on the first plan

In life children will get frustrated, that’s fine. However, negative emotions will never prevail over the positive.

After all, we tend to remember only the good. If you refuse a child pocket money, he’ll be upset, but will remind you in 10-15 years. Learn to say “no” and “not now”, let him learn to value things.

Overly spoiled by money, the children do not know that success depends on our deeds and efforts. But they are used to getting everything, you only finger pressure.

Be careful, because if your relationship is based on material reward, the child will not feel neither intrinsic motivation nor unconditional love.

They were criticized for past mistakes

What is the point of blame for mistakes that were already committed? Much more useful to help the child to draw conclusions, to continue in such situations, she never made miscalculations.

They correlate intelligence and giftedness with maturity

Intelligence is often used as an estimate of maturity of the child. Did you know that even the most gifted people, has become famous, are implicated in various scandals?

The genius of mathematics will not help defeat the bully in a dark alley. Do not think that if giftedness is present in one of the aspects of life, it will relieve from problems in other areas. Also, there is no secret maturity, and reaching 18 years of age, the child will not become wise immediately.

They are an example of do not show what is taught

When parents teach honesty, they can’t lie. When they teach of courage, they can’t shake. Only own example will help to visually simulate the qualities you want to instill in her child.

Remember that children sensitively catch even the smallest inconsistencies!