Lexicon positioner: 30 phrases that are forced to obey unconsciously

2018-02-26 15:18

Lexicon positioner: 30 phrases that are forced to obey unconsciously
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In this article we will talk about manipulation and some of the techniques, which uses the master manipulator in order to achieve selfish goals. The manipulator is the person who quietly takes advantage of another person, reports Rus.Media.

Often when I talk about manipulation, remember and about abuse. It is close in meaning to the concept, and it means psychological and emotional violence in the relationship.

Frustration, anger, annoyance, resentment, guilt, confusion, shame, fear, resentment — are the feelings that usually causes the manipulator in the person from whom wants to get what he wants.

First, it makes a person feel worthless. And then generously gives you the opportunity to get rid of the inferiority complex to make for themselves the services that served as a good thing.

Depreciation

“Other out with no legs and nothing” and “I wish I had your problem” — a demonstration of indifference to other people’s worries and anxieties.

“But you’re smart” and “So born”. After such phrases are hard to understand its appeal or notice is not obvious, but existing benefits.

“You want to? Want”, “I’m not talking to you” and “Your are nothing” — the phrase is able to make you believe in false own desires and suppress them.

Carping

“No offense, but…” and “to be able to take criticism” — the alleged good intentions to improve the other, which are actually a good opportunity to humiliate him.

“Where are you going, with your data” and “It’s for your own good” — a false concern. In fact, it is a direct prohibition to develop. It is a way to bind to itself. Is the fear of losing a person, because when she gets better, we will be able to join people on a different level.

“But Peter better” — compared with other well lowers self-esteem.

“You’re always offended” and “It’s a joke” is a way to hurt and not admit it.

Ageism

“Stay with me”, “don’t contradict your elders” — a suggestion of the idea of incompetence.

“Vodoroslei”, “you like a little” and “Go bigger.” Those who have had no arguments to prove his innocence, we can only move the arrow, and refer to the carelessness attitude of the opponent to the subject under discussion.

“We need to be able to “spin”, “at your age…” and “it’s time to understand that…” — the artificial creation of norms of behavior for every age.

Wine

“I love you now these hands raised”, “had Given the best years”, “All my life laid on you”. Guilt creates a sense of unfulfilled duty, which, in turn, inspires action.

Shame

“Be a man” and “don’t be a pussy”. In order to fit their gender in the eyes of others, people are willing to go to great lengths. Manipulators use it.

“No tears” and “man up” — a ban on emotions.

“Look at yourself” and “What will people say?” — the construction of dependency on public opinion.

“You are so selfish” means in translation: “My desires are more important than yours”. Accustomed to sacrifice, wanton disregard for their interests and needs.

Intimidation

“You have thirty years” and “when are you kids?” — evocation of a sense of compliance to standards.

“Go sweep the streets”, “Finish panel” and “Tuchis a lawyer and do what you want” — instilling a sense of fear of the future, where you can be a loser if you do not accept these manipulative actions.

Passive aggression

“Guess what I’m offended”, “You should have known” and “I know what you mean” — attached label telepath, which allows you to discard the explanations are not matched other thoughts and feelings.

“And you always” and “you never” — a reproach that is to wash off the stamp and causes a feeling of uncertainty, hopelessness, apathy and posiive aggression.

“I told you so”, “Now-what’s the difference” and “Oh, everything!” — short phrases to strengthen a sense of wrongness.

“No, it’s fine, just…” — magic by omission. A phrase which, in code: “You did something wrong, guess he”.

Suggestion doubt

“It never happened”, “I never said that”, “It’s not me it’s you”, “You made it up”, “You thought”, “You forgot, but I remember” and “You’re lying” accusations and objections, after which it is possible to doubt the correctness of his point of view and get confused in the testimony.

Rejection

“I want you to be…” — an allusion to the fact that such as it is, is not satisfied.

“People like you, I…” — a boost to the form of the need of self-improvement.

“Be above it” and “keep it simple” is to teach to disable protection mechanisms in critical situations and identify their causes.

“Impossible to talk to you” — means the unwillingness to compromise and imposes the responsibility on the other.

To recognize the manipulator means to defuse it. His true motives different from those which he declares. Know they pervoozernaya challenge for those who want to protect themselves from negative influences.