Psychologists explain how to forgive and release those who’ve hurt!

2018-03-09 00:27

Psychologists explain how to forgive and release those who’ve hurt!
Emotions caused by abuse can be rooted in the psyche.

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We all know what it means to be offended by someone, reports Rus.Media.

We all felt the pain of betrayal and resentment from abuse.

Maybe your husband cheated on you.

Perhaps your father has neglected you.

Maybe your friend lied to you.

Maybe someone has disowned you.

Perhaps your peers ridiculed you.

The list is endless.

Emotions caused by abuse can be rooted in the psyche. Emotions associated with abuse – anxiety, depression, fear, isolation, insomnia, etc. can be much longer.

The act of forgiveness may be the only powerful antidote to the pain caused by others. Forgiveness does not mean that you forget about it and continue to live.” And forgiveness does not mean you absolve the person of responsibility for their actions.

Yes, forgiveness is a choice. Yes, you can forgive yourself. But here’s the thing: if we can accept these statements at first sight is easy, we often have to deal with the problem of forgiveness – forgiveness of yourself or someone else.

Why we have this problem? Because of our emotions. Because we rationalize everything. In the end, we are not responsible for all the actions. You are responsible for your actions and for your emotions and thoughts.

You are responsible for mitigating the damage caused. You are ultimately responsible for forgiveness. But more importantly, you are responsible for your own happiness and peace of mind.

1. Understand that forgiveness is possible

To begin to forgive someone, we must first believe that forgiveness is possible. We must, as a minimum, to accept the idea that forgiveness is a possible solution to the problem.

2. Make a choice in favor of forgiveness

As mentioned earlier, forgiveness does not entail a justification of someone or something. Understanding and forgiveness will positively affect your emotions.

3. Consider the other person

At this stage begins the “process” of forgiveness. This includes reflections on the man in another key. Was he hurt? If so, perhaps their pain can affect your?

4. Acceptance of the humanity of another person

Both of you were born, you both die you’ll both be bleeding if you are wounded with a knife, and when you die, there will never be another person like you.

5. Soften your heart

Perhaps unconsciously, the actions of the other person a little hardened your heart. In the end, if you practice forgiveness, you should feel the release from unhealthy anger.

6. Accept the pain

At this stage, it is normal to experience strong emotions. You will feel a certain dose pain; but the pain eventually allows us to move forward.