Resentment: when I stopped to take offense, it didn’t hurt!

2018-03-01 11:59

Resentment: when I stopped to take offense, it didn’t hurt!
As you know, the offense — the state of our soul…

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When I stopped to take offense, it didn’t hurt. Say: this does not happen. How can you not be offended, when offended for the “alive”? If you look at the sources of origin of resentment, I think, will be to take offense there is nothing, reports Rus.Media.

So, what we sit in such, which does not allow us to forgive? To forgive means not to leave the sediment in your soul, continue to communicate freely with the person. Or, if you prefer not to talk at all, but at the same time not to think about it the good word, that is, to be neutral.

Wounded pride

Did not appreciate the way we wanted, or just falsely accused. But we know that’s not so bad. Here and tormented themselves with thoughts and curses against the offender. “Bite” his soul, assuring himself of the correctness. Is it worth it to prove to myself the obvious? I think we can all agree that it is a futile exercise. And so everyone knows her worth. Well, sue, you can just say: “I’m sorry you think of me”, “I’m upset that we didn’t understand each other.” And especially not to underestimate their self-esteem.

Pride

Try dropping the sense of superiority, to become the side partner. Remember: don’t pride in the strength of man in his velikodushnyi. Abuser is usually aware of himself that got excited.

The inability to accept the facts concerning you

For example, you say: “You were late for work. You made a mistake. You have a bad mood. You eat a lot. You’re fat”. You’re angry, not wanting to take valid. Learn to say “Yes”. Same “as” are any accusations your way. What do you think, wondering whether the other person you are “sting” and how long will it last, when you agree with everything?

Unjustified expectations

Often we expect from a person of certain actions, deeds, words, absolutely not inherent to it because of inherent traits, tact, education, education…, resenting the failure of the trumped-up us. Try to look at it objectively, not imagining what is not.

Misperception

For different people the same situation has a different impact. It is not about who said what and did and how we reacted as perceived information. Calm perception without irritation — it’s just a matter of daily “training”. And, in fact, we do decide to be offended. As is often said: “the Offense…”. In difficult situations, tell yourself: “I love myself and will not offend you.”

And the next time you want to take offense, consider this: is it really a nice feeling sorry for yourself and feel the victim. The predator always feels weak and attacks on him. You don’t want to be eaten! Maybe you are all the winner that rose above the situation and independent of circumstances! No wonder people say: “On offended carry water”. Not very desirable, right?

As you know, the offense — the state of our soul. The soul is the well from which we drink. What is the source of quenching thirst we give to ourselves and to others? Take care of your store, your source of life.

Live with a smile, not offended!