Return the passion after the baby is born. Useful tips

2018-02-16 14:22

Return the passion after the baby is born. Useful tips
So it is in your family happy event — the birth of the baby. Young mom and dad get used to the new roles and responsibilities… And at the same time, the attitude of many parents deteriorate after the birth of a child. Forces almost no time for each other too, diaper, diapers, sleepless nights, emotional tension — all this contributes to sexual arousal.

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Understand men are trying to unload poor mother and do not stick with the performance of marital debt, until she asks me who do not understand — begin to sort things out, to stay “at work” to change.

We’ll show you how to keep the fire in the relationship after the birth of the child and not to get bogged down in everyday life.

Was love?

Before you can use the heavy artillery you need to answer this question! Why do you think that little impact on the cooling in your relationship? That changed with the birth of a child? Was between you affection or, perhaps, under it cleverly “disguised” another feeling? Can a man used you, he was just convenient, and I sex staged. Or the girl is not married her husband, and for his tie and wallet.

Very often a passion after the birth of the child fades away in pairs who got married not for love, but because it is NECESSARY (due to pregnancy, for example). And it turns out that yesterday a suitable partner, is already losing its appeal and charm. If the family is created on the principle of desire or material well-being, it is not surprising that the passion has faded.

In the case when the marriage was for love, birth of a child she could not escape anywhere. She had to grow up — you have produced the fruit of true love (as they say in fairy tales). Just the feelings that you shared for two, now I have to divide by three (and sometimes four). The proportions of that loving is different, so one member of the loving group just a child requires your attention.

Sorry, when a person is offended and does not understand this demanding attitude and pay attention as much until the baby is born. It’s just do not work — break is not possible. In the end, there are quarrels, senses are dulled, the passion fades and there’s nothing I want.

What should I do?

It would be good to keep the family together. May you have a crisis, and fatigue often governs our decisions, actions and thoughts. Try it at least once a week to devote time only to yourself and your second half. Ask to sit with a toddler or grandparents, or at least hire a nanny. In my spare time go with her husband in a restaurant, a movie, just take a walk in the Park. Even better, if you book a hotel room and spend the time with sexual benefits.

At home try to look attractive. Yes, with a small baby is very difficult, but possible. Do not wear bulky, faded and icky stuff. Discard the strange robes and sweatpants. The stores are full of a variety of stylish apparel for home and tight pants and shirts, short skirt, shorts and dresses. Go to bed in a silk nightgown or a sexy sleepwear. Don’t forget beautiful lingerie.

A man will appreciate your efforts and do not even think that you have become unattractive after child birth. The passion in your relationship will sparkle with new colors, you should wear a good bra enhances the chest.

When you put the baby to sleep (Yes, many kids in the first months, and even years of his life, a very light sleeper and Wake up every 2-3 hours), create a romantic atmosphere and spend a great time together. Can take a hot bath or shower, drink wine and eat. Useful aphrodisiacs — they cause sexual appetite. Well, then it will rise for small… do Not have to do it every day — several times a month is enough to show your beloved that you still want, love and care about him.

About experimenting in bed, to forget and not worth it. It is clear that for some time no women after childbirth to have sex, and when the doctor gave permission, many also fear a return to the intimate life due to fear of possible pain. But in this case there is anal and oral sex. Change the place of location of their sex in the bathroom, in the kitchen, on the balcony, on the floor, on the bed. Places in the apartment for the experiments — as much as necessary. With the poses, too, can and need to experiment. A man will appreciate and for you, sex will cease to be a simple marital duty.

Very well ignite the passion in the relationship — juicy gifts and intimate photos. Gifts can be purchased in a sex shop, and intimate photos and messages to send to her husband while he was at work. Place, sex becomes brighter, for divorce, no one is not going to file.

And most importantly — keep bodily contact and speak each other pleasant words. You can hug each other, hold hands, kiss, Pat on the back, whisper to each other in the ear of compliments and sweet nothings. Maybe it would look childlike, but that’s only for real couples, who have kept respect for their second half.