School of life! 10 things I stopped doing and found freedom

2018-01-30 21:34

School of life! 10 things I stopped doing and found freedom
“I do not solve the problem. I correct their thinking. Then problems resolved themselves.”

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Looking back on my life, I have come to realize that my worst enemy was striving for perfection. I was raised under high expectations, and at school every day I felt like competing with others and fighting to become the best in its class.

Louise Hay.

So how do such changes have occurred?

1. I stopped chasing perfection.

I am absolutely beautiful and beautifully imperfect, and that’s what allows me to be myself.

Perfection is an illusion, it does not exist. I stopped to pace yourself in the pursuit of perfection, I now strive for “good enough.” I have learned to accept your mistakes as a necessity, which accompanies growth and make me wiser. If I suffer something of a setback, it doesn’t mean I’m a loser, I’m just not doing their job. We either win or learn. But we will never lose.

“From time to time you will feel better, it’s like the recovery of the sick. Just do your best under any circumstances and you will avoid self-judgment, self-deprecation and self-pity.” (Miguel Ruiz)

2. I stopped counting is required at all times to do anything.

Always somewhere to explode – this is not a sign of virtue. I learned to listen to my body and I no longer feel guilty for not doing anything. I know my body and sometimes my soul needs recharging, and I do not think I need someone to explain something.

Watch good movies, listen to calm music, read favorite books, sing, walk in nature – I do what makes my heart sing.

“I’m a man for life and not for work. Don’t evaluate yourself on how well you do something in your life. You are not the same as your business. Do not think that if there … there is no you.” (Wayne Dyer)

3. I stopped beating myself up.

I pay attention to how talking to yourself. I don’t abivau myself, I treat myself with dignity and respect. I stopped telling myself that I would never say a good friend. I am self-sufficient and self-worth.

I came to the understanding that in life we get not what we want. We get what we deserve on our own opinions. That’s why you have to believe in yourself and treat yourself as a person, deserve the very best that life has to offer.

“Have you criticized yourself for many years, and it didn’t work. Try to praise myself and see what happens.” (Louise Hay)

4. I stopped blaming others.

I realize now that every time I have someone to blame it on, I play the role of the victim. Blaming others for wasted time, wasted money, or injustice in love, I always think about what was my contribution to what happened. No one can hurt me or upset me without my conscious (or unconscious) consent.

Instead, I now take responsibility for what I feel, think and how I act. I am responsible for my actions, and I know that my future will be the result of my today’s choice. I fact, what I believe, and all that I want to be.

“All the accusations are a waste of time. No matter how much blame outsiders, it doesn’t change you. You can successfully make anyone feel guilty, but it will not help you change in yourself that makes you unhappy “. (Wayne Dyer)

5. I no longer judge others

I know that everyone has their own way and my goal is to focus on your own goals. I also know that every time I evaluate other people, it is a reaction to what bothers me. If I consider someone close, it means that perhaps I myself like this – otherwise how would I be able to see it?

“Blaming another or evaluation of its actions deprives you of the ability to change themselves; taking responsibility for yourself gives you such an opportunity.” (Byron Katie)

6. I stopped making assumptions about what other people feel, want or think.

I – it’s not them, so there’s no way to know what they feel or think.

I stopped to play imaginary scenarios and let my mind play with me. Every time I catch myself worrying about what other people do or say, I think it’s time to return to reality.

Thanks to the book by Byron Katie “the Work”, I learned to analyze those thoughts that bother me, and ask yourself: “is This true?”Probably many of my assumptions is deceptive. For example, I can assume that someone doesn’t like me, although in reality the person was just a bad day. Or maybe people are just shy. It’s always different.

In that moment, when I realize that I can’t learn the opinions of others simply because that person is not me, my head clears and I can act with an open heart.

“I discovered that the undoubted cause of all wars and all of a truce in my little world was my assumption”. (Byron Katie)

7. I stopped competing with others.

Now I know that my desire to fight was a manifestation of my ego, which demanded self-examination. To feel good, it is not necessary to know what someone else lost. I love the harmony, cooperation and win-win.

I stopped comparing myself to others. I choose an Alliance with people based on love, not fear, and I believe in success. I want to believe that we live in a benevolent Universe, where enough space for everyone and everything, including me.

“Love is cooperation, not competition.” (Wayne Dyer)

8. I stopped building future happiness.

I no more expect happiness in an imaginary future, in the hope that one day, when I have a job, a house, a car and a success, I’ll be happy. I have learned to find happiness in the small joys of life, and I admire that the only reality that currently brings me so much joy.

I stopped to wait the weekend to feel alive, because every day is a gift and every moment is precious and equally important.

During the day I concentrate not on the bad, and good, and everything changes. I am grateful for everything that is happening around, and for all that I have: a healthy body and mind, loving family, few real friends, a job I love and in which I believe.

“I’ve noticed that the universe loves gratitude. The more you thank, the more positive things happening.” (Louise Hay)

9. I stopped worrying about the future.

I accept that in life there are things that I can’t control, no matter how much effort I’ll put. Every time I find myself on the fact that you’re worried, I say to myself, “Time will tell”.

I can’t always get what I want, but I know I always get what I need. I trust the flow of life and I want to believe that we live in a reasonable Universe where everything makes perfect sense. Sometimes in life you have to wait.

“Life is simple. Everything happens with you, not coming from you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too early nor too late. You don’t like it … you are doing something just to make you feel better “. (Byron Katie)

10. I no longer try to please others.

I no longer need someone else’s approval or acceptance. Anxiety about what others think is a waste of time. Other people look at me through their prism and their opinion does not matter to me.

I no longer expect from others what I didn’t give myself: love, care and attention. Love her entire body and mind, and soul is not selfish. I am filled with love for him, and I care about their needs and desires of my heart.

I learned to make choices, taking care of themselves and not about the disappointments of others. People are to blame for their disappointed, because I expect that I will act in accordance with their desires.

To say “no” to what we don’t like, is common practice and a sign of self-care. If I say something like the word “should”, I don’t do that. I respond when asked about my desire. My desires come from me and not from other people. I always choose what or whom to spend your precious time. I know that my time is my life, and it will never return.

My life belongs to me, and I have the right to make a choice. Life should be life, not just existence, and I choose real life without any excuses and apologies.

“Nobody and nothing will do for you. What others say and do, depends on their own reality, their own dream. If you are immune to the thoughts and actions of other people, you will not become a victim of unnecessary suffering.” (Miguel Ruiz)
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My samoperedelny did not happen immediately. It is a continuous process that requires constant inner work.

Today I’m still learning in the school of life, and every day gives me a great opportunity to acquire new knowledge. I know that I have the strength to create its own reality, to realize their dreams. So I want to be sure that you have your mind healthy thoughts. I know I have it strong.