The whole truth about men

2014-08-07 23:26

The whole truth about men
A man may say, “I am so busy; I recently went through a breakup of a serious relationship, which became very great shock to me; my parents ‘divorce has left in my soul an indelible mark and brought a lot of new trouble; now I need to focus on my career”

You just do not like him. And no need to invent excuses for him.

A man may say, “I am so busy; I recently went through a breakup of a serious relationship, which became very great shock to me; my parents ‘divorce has left in my soul an indelible mark and brought a lot of new trouble; now I need to focus on my career”. It is easier for us to jump out the window than to say: “I don’t fit”. Stop making excuses for us, our actions speak for themselves: you simply don’t like.

So say the authors of the book “the truth about men,” Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo. They made a list of excuses, which should be avoided, every woman.

1. Not so much he likes you, if he doesn’t invite you out on a date.

Because if he likes you, he will appoint you a meeting.

A scene from the movie “pretty boy 2”

Excuse: “Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin our friendship”. Hate to tell you this, but this excuse does not hold water. And please don’t tell me he’s just afraid”. The only thing he fears is to admit that you’re not prevaluate.

Excuse: “I guess he does not dare to take the first step”. You can hint the man that relate to it, but we should not help him to ask you out on a date. The fact that you smile and a playful wink, would be sufficient.

Excuse: “Maybe he doesn’t want to rush things”. If you really like the man, but there are very personal reasons why he doesn’t want to rush things, he will immediately tell you about it. He will not leave you in the dark, as he needs the assurance that you will not be disappointed and will not disappear from his life.

Justification: “But he gave me his phone number”. Don’t let him using cheap tricks to get you to invite him on a date. If you are interested in a man, he will take care of everything.

Excuse: “Maybe he forgot me”. Be sure you have made an impression on him. Now leave it as is. If he likes you, he will remember you even after the tsunami, flood or losing football team in the next match.

Remember:

Any justification essentially means that you are a little interested. Men are not afraid to “ruin the friendship”.
Don’t fall for his tricks and don’t invite him out on a date. If he likes you, he’ll invite you.
If you can’t find it, so he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will do it.
“Hey, let’s meet at this party / any bar / at a friend’s house” does not belong to the category of invitations for a date.
You good enough to get you invited on a date.

2. Not so much he likes you, if you do not rings

Men know how to use the phone.

Justification: “But he so often is on the road”. Note: a man who interested in you, wants to spend time with you.

Justification: “But he’s thinking about quite different things”. The most important question here is: “is It OK if a man forgot to call me?” I answer: “No.” He should never forget that they promised to call you. Don’t you expect a guy who would rather forget about everything that happened in his life, than forget about you?

The excuse: “He says not what she was really thinking”. That’s the whole problem: at the end of the meeting or telephone conversation many men telling you what they think you want to hear. They think it’s better than nothing. So if the guy you’re Dating doesn’t call you, despite all your promises, whether to dwell on it? Because you need a man that at least can keep my word.

Justification: “But he is very busy”. The word “busy” is bullshit, it is usually used donkeys. The word “busy” one hit can destroy any relationship. Emergency “employment” may seem like a convincing excuse, but in fact behind this concept is always a man who was not interested in to call you.

Remember:

If you do not rings, it is about you not thinking.
If he makes promises, and then leads you on the little things, be sure that the same thing will happen when it comes to more serious things.
It is not necessary to build relationships with those who are not able to keep his word.
If he doesn’t want to make any effort to calm you and reduce the impending conflict in your relationship, he just doesn’t respect your feelings and needs.
You deserve the hell you called.

3. Not so much he likes you, if he does not recognize the fact that you’re Dating

Spending time together is not Dating.

A scene from the movie “Sensation”

The excuse: “He’s just gone through a painful breakup”. Beware of the word “friend.” It is often used for men or women who love these men, to justify their most swinish behavior.

The excuse: “But we really are”. Men, like women, tend to gain a sense of security and safety when they see that the relationship becomes serious. One common way to achieve this is to claim your loved one. A man who is truly passionate about you will want you belonged to him completely. What’s wrong with that?

Excuse: “It’s better than nothing”. Let me remind you that you need a man who wants you, calls you regularly and makes you feel sexy and desirable woman in the world. Relationship in which you meet with a man every two weeks or once a month, not feeling any love or sympathy on his part, unable to last a day, or week, or month. But if they can last a lifetime?

Remember:

Men talk about their feelings, even if you refuse to listen or believe their confessions. “I’m not ready for a serious relationship” means “I’m not ready for a serious relationship with you.”
“Better than nothing” shouldn’t you be arranged.
If you don’t understand what’s going on in your relationship, then it’s okay to slow down and ask him a few questions.
There is one guy who wants to tell everyone that he’s your boyfriend. Stop fooling around, go and get it.

4. Not so much he likes you, if he doesn’t want to have sex with you

If a man likes a woman, he always wants to touch it.

Still from the film “the Third wheel”

Dear ladies, you have already met and will meet a great many men. I hate to say this, but some of these men just decide that you are not their type. But the truth is, simple, cruel and bitter, clear as day: you don’t attract him, and he doesn’t want to hurt you.

The excuse: “He is afraid that he will again be hurt”. He is afraid? Yes, he is afraid to offend you. That’s why he never clarified the situation with your relationship. He loves you as a friend. If he loved you as a woman, he could not control himself and spun with you in a whirlwind romance.

Excuse: “I was driving him crazy that he doesn’t show any interest”. Of course, many people in the past had to suffer, and now they are afraid of a serious relationship. But you know what? If you really like the man, nothing will prevent him to achieve you even the fear of a serious relationship. If he had really big problems about this, he can go on pointless treatment, but will never keep you in suspense.

The excuse: “But it’s so cool”. It used to be that the woman refuses to have sex when he wants to gain power over men. It seems that the representatives of the stronger sex, too, learned how to use it. If a guy is lying on the sofa, happily eating biscuits and watching movie, then you simply are not attracted to.

The excuse: “He finds a bunch of explanations”. You can believe his excuses if you want, but first ask yourself a few questions. Are you satisfied with such a relationship? The most important here – you want to feel that way, perhaps for life? Sex is also one of the greatest pleasures that a person can experience.

Remember:

People are always talking about what they really are. If a man tells you that monogamy is not for him, there’s no reason not to believe him.
Communication is great. But if the communication is combined with sex is even better. Call a spade a spade, or rather, the call of each other. And find yourself a friend who can’t resist to touch you.
If you have low self-esteem, then you will have to spend more more time than searching for a new boyfriend.

5. Not so much he likes you, if he sleeps with another woman

There is no truly compelling excuse for infidelity.

Justification: “it is no excuse, and he knows it”. Cheating is bad. And the inability to explain why you changed man, even worse. If you are not the one red flag, how about two? Not meet with men who do not know why they did this or that.

The excuse: “But I put on weight”. I’m pretty sure you need to lose 90 kg in the form of your worthless boyfriend, and not those twenty pounds, which he says. Immediately get rid of that loser, or I will come to your home and throw him out.

The excuse: “He needs more sex than me”. There’s no excuse for the fact that he is cheating on you. Point. There are many ways to solve this rather common problem which occurs due to the difference in sexual appetites.

The excuse: “But at least he knew her”. Explain in other words: it does not matter he loves you or not. He made it clear what his attitude to your novel. He went on about his feelings and he arranged to be alone with another woman, to kiss her, to remove her clothes and do everything else that usually happens when two adults have sex.

Remember:

Treason is no excuse. Let me repeat: cheating is no excuse. Now you say it yourself: treason is no excuse.
The only thing you are responsible for the moral decline of another person, is your own feelings.
Treason is treason. It does not matter who he cheated on you and how many times it happened.
Cheaters are never happy. (Because they’re all bastards.)
The wrong man in the first place is cheating himself, if he can’t build a normal relationship with you.

6. Not so much he likes you, if he wants to see you, only when drunk

If he likes you, he will endeavour to see you when his brain is not filled with vapors of alcohol.

Frame from the movie “the Great Gatsby”

The excuse: “But I like it when he’s tipsy”. If sitting at the bar, he was drunk saying something like, “Baby, you’re so beautiful!” and hugs you a little tighter than we would have, it’s time to learn something: you can’t believe everything that the man says when he’s drunk. Do you need it?

Justification: “at least he’s not drinking strong drink”. Don’t get fooled. The guy who does not fall down and not Picasa pants from drinking, should not get away with what he quietly turns off their brains different, more easily each time you are together.

Remember:

His words mean nothing if he said them under the influence. “I love you” or similar, it is said under the influence of any beverage stronger than grape juice has no power in court and in real life.
The use of alcohol and drugs is not the way to the innermost feelings of a person.
You deserve a guy that doesn’t have anything pumped to spend time with you.

7. Not so much he likes you if he doesn’t want to marry you

Each of your former men, who said that he didn’t want to get married or believe in marriage, or he has doubts about marriage, someday will bind themselves in Holy matrimony. Just not with you.

A scene from the movie “Police Academy”

Remember:

“Wants to marry” and “doesn’t want to marry me” are two different things. Make sure you correctly identify which category belongs to your partner.
If you have opposite views on marriage, surely there are other issues that lead to disagreements.
If your relationship changes nothing, what are you waiting for?
Somewhere on the earth walks the man who wants to marry you.

8. Not so much he likes you if he dumped you

Shot from a film “Sex in the city”

Excuse: “I need him”. Not content with the fact that he without boring you. He should miss you. Because you are so unique. And yet he was, and remained the person who dumped you.

Justification: “After this decision a lot easier”. There is one thing the young man ever does if he can not imagine without you my life: he will never abandon you.

The excuse: “But everyone is doing it”. Yes, breakup sex is a bad thing, because it’s great to sleep with the person you know. And also great to sleep with the person that you have strong feelings.

The excuse: “But then he wants to come back”. Unfortunately, once you break up, your young man begins to look for something better. And when he fails, he covers loneliness, and he returns “home”. It’s not like you are very much liked. He just very much not like to be alone.

Excuse: “I refuse to accept the fact that he left me”. I’m sorry he left you. Trying again and again to get him back, you move the ex-boyfriend to think: “what I found in this psycho bitch?” Remember one simple piece of advice, ladies: always be on top. Never go crazy.

Remember:

You will not be able to stay together through conversation. The discussion here will not help. The rupture of relations – the decision is final and it may not be.
Breakup sex does not mean that you are together again.
Don’t need to remind him of how beautiful you are.
He can take care of your cat.
Somewhere you will find a young man who will be very happy that you once again did not agree with his awful ex-boyfriend.

9. Not so much he likes you if he just up and disappeared

Well, here everything is clear. He gave you to understand that you are so not his type that he didn’t even bother to leave you some news about myself.

A scene from the movie “RED”

Excuse: “Maybe he died”. There’s nothing worse than getting a response from a loved one. The only reason you should write to him again – the desire to obtain explicit refusal, now in verbal form. Have you forgotten? You are too busy with their fans, and you have no time for such nonsense.

Excuse: “it turns out, I can’t even to quarreling with him for the last time?” The first time, perhaps, it would seem that you’ll feel better if you call him and arrange a scandal. You may feel that you let him get away with it. But trust me, anything you want to say to him, will not be a revelation. And you have to spend your time.

Excuse: “I just want to answer”. You deserve to know what happened, really? No doubt. I can tell you what happened: you’ve met with a terrible person.

Remember:

Perhaps he really is in the hospital, suffering from amnesia, but he’s probably just not so keen on you.
The lack of response is his answer to you.
Do not give him the opportunity to reject you again.
Let his mother arranges his scandals. And you’re too busy.
There’s no mystery there: he’s just gone from your life, and he was not worthy of you.

10. Not so much he likes you if he’s married (this includes all others, the most incredible reasons)

If you can’t love each other freely and openly, it is not true love.

Remember:

He’s married.
If it does not belong to you entirely, so he belongs to her.
The world is very much cool and gentle men. Try to meet one of them.
It isn’t easy to forget. Let him find you when he’s ready for a new relationship.

11. Not so much he likes you, if he behaves like a selfish egotist, a braggart or just as a big jerk

If he really loves you, will make every effort to make you happy.

Shot from the movie: “Bachelor party 2: From Vegas to Bangkok”

Justification: “But he really wants to improve”. Loving people trying to be good to each other and even enjoy showing favorite tenderness and care. If your partner is very bad, then you end up reaping the same fruits as in a situation called “Not so much he likes you”.

The excuse: “But it just brought up”. Not necessarily that he went crazy from your collection of CDs. Not necessarily that he liked your shoes. But any complete and reasonable man simply must make the effort to love your friends and your family.

Justification: “But he will change”. Temper is not a temporary problem. People who yell at others, just can’t control themselves and need psychiatric help. People who shout at others, believe they have that right.

Justification: “After all, it’s only important what happens between us alone”. Why be with a man who needs to belittle you to feel superior? Especially before friends! Why you should pay attention to the fact that he treats you better when you’re alone?

Justification: “But he’s just trying to help”. It is very difficult to believe that you deserve real love, when someone is trying to convince you that you have nothing in this life is not worth it. But, as I see it, all entreaties to leave him for you would not apply. So to start, just be aware: you are too good for such relationships.

Remember:

Do not complicate and without that hard life, sharing it with someone who brings you a lot of hassle.
You deserve a man who in any situation will behave with you properly. (Don’t forget that you have to treat it.)
Nitwits place in the circus, not in your apartment.
Getting rid of useless people, you get a lot of free time which can be spent on something that brings you pleasure.

12. So what are you to do?

Then you ask: “what if the next novel is not at all?” And we say: “Send these scary thoughts on a long voyage on a ship that will surely sink because he was destined to crash on the reefs of the Island of Sadness. And we don’t want you to be on this ship.”

YOUR NEW REQUIREMENTS:

I’m not going to meet the man who himself does not invite me out.
I’m not going to meet the man, forcing me to wait for hours for his call.
I’m not going to meet the man, not sure that she wants to meet me.
I’m not going to meet the man, which I feel sexually unattractive.
I’m not going out with a person who abuses alcohol or drugs, so it causes me discomfort.
I’m not going to meet the man who is afraid to build with me the plans for the future.
I under no circumstances won’t waste time on a man who had once rejected me.
I’m not going out with a married man.
I wouldn’t date a man if he really is not kind, sincere and gentle man.

And you will be happy!

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