Your children lie to you? In fact, it’s just wonderful!

2018-02-01 20:14

Your children lie to you? In fact, it’s just wonderful!
So say the psychologists.

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Should parents worry when children begin to deceive them?

Most of us would answer “Yes.” We believe that honesty is the moral law of man. But studies show that the opposite is true.

Lying is not just OK — it’s a sign of intelligence.

Children begin to lie about 2 years. In one experiment, with the back of the child put the toy, and while the doctor under false pretenses left, he told me not to look at her. A minute later he returned and asked the child looked at the toy.

The test showed 2 things: a) most kids still look down at the toy in the absence of a physician; b) many of them then lying about not watching.

Children are perfectly able to lie. Video where children tell the truth or lie about being watched if they’re a toy or not, showed adults of different professions. Strange, but no one was able to catch children in lies, even their own parents!

Why some children start to lie before the other? How do they differ from more honest peers? The short answer is they are smarter!

Other studies have shown that children who lie better concentration on the tasks and have higher levels of cognitive development. They are more socially adapted.

Parents confused. It turns out that children should be smart enough to lie, but not inclined to do that. Yes, and the safety of the child is sometimes dependent on pure truth. How to get kids to be honest?

In short — the carrot better than the stick. Severe penalties or restrictions will not help to prevent lies, but on the contrary.

Scientists have conducted research in two schools. One used more stringent methods of punishment, the other — moderate. Lied more and better students at the school applied more stringent measures.

However, when students were praised for being honest and said things like: “If you tell the truth, I will be very happy,” it pushed them to honesty.

Works as a simple promise. Psychologists have found that the likelihood that the children look at a toy behind reduced if they promised not to do it. Interestingly, this works even with children who do not know the meaning of the word “promise.” They just stick to the installation, “I’ll tell the truth.”

Psychologists claim that in order for a child less lying, to emphasize the benefits of honesty and not the cons of cheating.

And you can just pay kids for honesty. Scientists conducted a study involving 5-and 6-year-old children, where honesty they were paid from 0 to 8 dollars, and for the lies 2. When honesty did not pay, four of the five lied. Interestingly, at two dollars for the truth the number of honest children almost grown.

When did honesty become to bring from $ 3, the scales have tipped in favour of the truth. For children, it is relative value — the exchange rate between honesty and dishonesty, so to speak.

“The decision to lie unfounded, say the researchers, Children relate the benefits of both options.” Really smart kids.